From Blogger to WordPress

Hello everyone and welcome to my new blog on WordPress! I’m very excited about this change from Blogger to WordPress, and I hope you are too! All of my old posts that were formerly on my blog “Logophilia” on blogger.com can still be found on this blog newly named “Twenty-Something and Fearless”.

So you know that I’m twenty-something, but what about the “fearless” part of my blog title you ask? Well to clear up any presumptions that it might have to do with Taylor Swift’s album: it doesn’t. Although that album was amazing and I still listen to it without shame on the reg. I decided on “twenty-something and fearless” because that’s the kind of person I’m going to strive to be in my twenties. I want to be someone who takes risks and isn’t afraid to do so. If one day I get the opportunity to work in New York, I hope I’m fearless enough to leave my life behind in Georgia and move to a new state far away. Being fearless in life is how you get the most out of life. So I want to be fearless and I want to live my life to its absolute fullest potential.

I have a lot of new and exciting things coming up this summer like a trip to England in July! So be on the lookout for some travel blogs! I have so much that I can’t wait to share with y’all this summer! I will also be incorporating more lifestyle blogs just for those spontaneous adventures and road trips with friends that I’d love to share.

So as I make this transition over to a new website with a new outlook on what I want my blog to be about, I just want to thank anyone and everyone who has read and supported my blog thus far, especially my best friends and family who are always sharing and commenting and interacting with my blog posts. Y’all have no idea how happy and blessed it makes me feel, and I love having such wonderful people in my life that inspire me to write and encourage me to continue doing what I love.

In the mean time, take a look around the blog and get excited for some new posts headed your way to kick off the beginning of a great summer!

– Ash

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20 Things Girls Learn Before They Turn 20

As little girls we played dress up with our best friends, pretending like we were princesses married to our Prince Charming, and together we ruled over our kingdom while living in a beautiful castle. Then, at some point in our lives that no one can ever really pinpoint, we got older and suddenly our princess gowns turned into graduation gowns, our castles turned into colleges, and our Prince Charming turned into a figment of our imagination.

When we were young, growing up and being in our twenties seemed like all we wanted and more. After all, even if there weren’t actual fairy tale castles and ballgowns, there was still the idea of being an adult and in charge of ourselves, the idea of having a career where we still got to play dress up but in professional clothes of course, and the idea of finding that special someone to share your morning coffee and conversation.

As I turned 20 last month, I got so excited thinking of all the wonderful twists and turns headed my way as I take on the decade that everyone craves to call their own. However, as I left one decade to enter the next, thinking of all that I was going to learn in the next 10 years, I thought of all that I had already learned thanks to the decade that I was putting behind me. Although you’re not a teenager for an entire decade, you’re still one for 7 years, and I realized that I learned more in those short 7 years than I ever gave my teen years credit for:

  1. Your best friends become your family both figuratively and literally when they’re at your house so much that they’ve basically moved in
  2. There are some things in life that are always worth the extra penny, and makeup and shoes will always be 2 of them
  3. Money spent on making memories is money well spent
  4. When boys let you down, you still have 2 other B’s that you can always count on to make everything better: beach and best friends

  5. For the times when the beach isn’t exactly the most reasonable getaway, a music blasting kind of late night drive with your best friends can also be a good remedy for a bad day
  6. Some people are worth a lot of work to keep around
  7. And some people leave your life that you’re better off without
  8. Finding the right guy has to be treated as if you’re searching for the right lipstick; you can go through many kinds before you finally find the right one that best fits you, but you never settle or change yourself to fit them

  9. Although growing up does mean changing, that change doesn’t have to be a bad thing; it’s how you decide to change that will make the biggest impact
  10. There is a difference between a good and bad hair tie; we’ve all learned the hard way…
  11. Sometimes things change that we have no control over, but regardless of whether we like it or not, we know we have to learn from it and move on

  12. Going outside your comfort zone will result in some of the best stories and most memorable life lessons
  13. Boys will break your heart and you’ll probably get a breakup haircut or piercing (or both if it was really bad), but eventually you’ll move on and realize you’re a different although better person because of it, so really we should thank them for making us so awesome
  14. Fighting with your best friend can be more upsetting than fighting with your boyfriend
  15. But in the end you two will apologize, make up, and move on because you both need each other in life

  16. Self-confidence is often times easier said than done, but with a good dress and the right pair of heels, you can feel like you could conquer the world
  17. Retail therapy is the best therapy (just not for your wallet)
  18. The friendships that last after high school are the friendships that are the most valuable
  19. And some friendships that you make in just the first 2 years of college are going to be ones that will last a lifetime
  20. And last but certainly not even close to least: doing what makes you happy will make you just that, happy, and happiness should never be postponed for the sake of others

So whether you’re already well into your twenties, an adult past your twenties in denial of your actual age, or a young teenager in the midst of the 7 years of crazy chaos, I think we all owe a big thank you to the 7 years that taught us some of the most important lessons that prepared us for the next and best decades in our life. As for me, bring it on, twenties! I’m ready for you!

All About That Basic: 7 Reasons Why Being Basic Isn’t So Bad

My generation is weird; I have no problem admitting it. On one hand, we’re highly dependent on technology, we post too much on social media about our day, we care too much about fitting in and following trends, and the question “what Netflix show are you watching now?” probably comes up in daily conversation far too often.

On the other hand, though, my generation is amazing. We use technology to stay in touch with friends that have moved far away, especially in college, we’re experiencing the world in a way that we feel others just have to see so we show our adventures via social media, we are driven by the idea of success and so college degrees are becoming the norm, and let’s be real Netflix is a genius invention that needs no explanation because it has saved most college students from going crazy on multiple occasions.

However, to those who don’t understand us, we’re the generation of pumpkin spice lattes, hiking and Instagraming (because you can’t do one without the other of course), and introducing strange words/phrases into our daily vocabulary like “too turnt”, “can’t even”, “hashtag”, “yas” and my all time favorite: “basic”.

Basic [bey-sik]

n./adj./really anything you want it to be

  1. used to describe any person, place, thing, or activity that involves typical/trendy/common behavior; generally used to characterize females of  the Caucasian race (ex: “basic white girl”)
  2. often used by males who are not aware that they possess the ability to be basic as well
  3. not the kind related to chemistry

Well while some criticize girls and guys (yes boys, don’t think this doesn’t apply to you Mr. Ralph Lauren and Sperry Top-siders) for being described as such, I say what’s so wrong with being basic?

1. Starbucks can satisfy everyone’s taste bud

Find me someone that doesn’t like at least one thing on the menu. Oh, you can’t? That’s because despite how “basic” it may be, it’s delicious and can accommodate anyone’s coffee needs year round, and if you don’t like coffee, they still have giant cookies. Everyone loves giant cookies.

2. Yoga pants/leggings are beyond comfortable

Boys, you know you can’t complain about the basicness of this attire because you like seeing them as much as we love wearing them. Girls, for ultimate comfort pair with a big t-shirt and experience the most basic and most comfortable outfit of all time.

3. Exploring the world is what everyone should be doing

So what if we post a picture of every mountain we hike or ocean we visit? The world is an absolutely beautiful place, so travel, take pictures, post them to any and every social media that you please. Adventuring is truly living, and you shouldn’t be ashamed to be taking advantage of the life you’re given.

4. Snapchat is the new and improved texting

It’s become more of a hobby than simply a means of communication. Not only do you get to talk to your best friends, family, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc., but you get to see them as well! Best of both worlds (until someone screenshots that is).

5. Converse and Nike can thank all the basics out there for making their sales skyrocket 

We’re really doing these companies a favor by providing them with basically (pun intended) a third of their sales revenue. Plus, we’re bettering the economy by spending more money, right? (at least that’s what I got from my Econ 2105 class…)

6. On that note so can all the “hipster wannabe” companies

We keep fashion going and are always up to date with what’s in style and what isn’t. If you can’t count on the basics to wear and promote your clothing, who can you count on?

7. Diversity is a key to being “basic” 

At this point you’re probably just shaking your head thinking, “Isn’t that what being basic is all about? Being just like everyone else?” Well you’re right, in a sense; however there’s        a bit more to it. If you’re in my generation of college students, you’ll understand the concept that there are different kinds of basics out there. There’s the “basic white girl”, the “basic hipster wannabe”, the “basic athlete”, the “basic preppy boy”, the list goes on.

Most likely everyone you see on campus could be placed into a category, which leads me to my most pressing argument for the whole “basic” era: if everyone is so-called basic, is anyone basic at all? Is there even a need for the term? Maybe we just obsess over categorizing people with these strange words that we establish new meanings for because it’s what society has taught us to do and what our favorite TV shows/movies reiterate to us (ex. Mean Girls…duh).

It’s like it gives us a sense of composure to know that everything has a place and a general identifier. Although we will never get rid of this organized chaos we compete with everyday, we can bask in the glory that it’s okay to be in one of those categories, whether it’s “basic”, “Greek”, “athlete”, etc. Whatever our identifier is, let it identify us and let us own up to it and find the good that comes out of it, but don’t let it hold you back and define your entire person. It’s okay to accept the fact that maybe we’re all a little basic in our own way, but there’s good things about that, not just the negative aspects that society pushes.

Take your identifier and show others that there’s more to it than just a word with a few letters, there’s a whole description.

Love Is Patient

Chuck and Blair.

Marshall and Lily.

Jack and Rose.

Noah and Allie.

Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy.

The term “hopeless romantic” seems to have always been synonymous with my personality. I’m that girl that obsesses over adorable movie/TV show couples as if I knew them personally, that girl who is constantly finding new Netflix shows, movies, and books to completely immerse myself in solely on the basis of the love story within it, and that girl that can’t help but be held in complete admiration and awe by something as simple as a cute line or awkward interaction between two people. My eyes get wide and teary every time I watch the wedding of Chuck and Blair (spoiler alert oops), and does it make sense? Not at all; in fact it’s actually a little strange. I don’t know these people, nor do these people actually exist as they’re just actors and actresses reading scripts, so why does it have such a strong effect on me? I guess I just love love. I love the idea of “the one” whether or not it is an actual thing. I think that in this world where we are constantly moving and never resting or relaxing, we miss out on a lot and we skim through important events and memories and people that aren’t meant to be experienced so rapidly. Love is one of the very few things that has the ability to overpower the human race. To love, humans are weak, vulnerable. Under its spell we find ourselves doing such absurd acts simply because they’re being done for the person we love. That person suddenly consumes your every thought and consists of your every desire. You crave them in the simplest of ways and merely being in their presence would curb your longing for them. What’s puzzling is that even when we don’t yet have that person in our life or we’ve lost the only person that we thought was the closest resemblance, the craving and yearning for “the one” doesn’t cease; in a sense, it becomes greater, and so we search for an outlet to allow us to completely immerse ourselves in. I think I can watch Chuck and Blair’s wedding over and over and over because no matter how many times I’ve replayed the scene, it fascinates me that two people can go through hell and back and still end up together in the happiest state of all.

You see, once you love someone, it sticks. You may not be in love with them anymore, and you may not even know them that well anymore, but you still love them. Why? Maybe because love overpowers humans in every sense, and when love comes in, rationality and thought don’t exist. Some people may deem that an absurd thought and the idea of such irresponsibility would drive some crazy, but that’s not how I see it. If you’re anything like me, you hold onto the idea of love and the cliche “one” that everyone seems to be talking about nowadays; you hold onto this idea of a perfect love because if you don’t have hope that one day you’ll have it, what else is there to hope for that will give you the same riveting feeling? No one hopes for a mediocre, boring kind of love. That’s not what’s written about in books or movies because that’s not the kind of love worth pursuing. A love worth pursuing is the kind that lingers in your thoughts while you’re laying in bed at night, the kind that makes you want to be a better person, the kind that has the ability to make you inexplicably happy, and the kind that allows you to be your entire self without judgment or criticism. Of course this is just my idea of a great love, and everyone has their own criteria, but no matter what your list of characteristics and traits consists of, we all have a list. We search for the person that’s going to fit it best and fit us the best.

Unfortunately, to some, the journey of finding that person is more of a challenging obstacle course, and then there are those who most of us in that category call “the lucky ones” who find someone their meant to be with and somehow it just works without much struggle. While these people are very lucky to find someone so perfectly fitting for them with such ease, I strongly believe that those of us including myself who are in the first category do not give ourselves enough credit and it’s time that we start. So to those of you reading this who are struggling in the dreaded love department: stop dreading it, and start appreciating it and all it has taught you and is going to teach you. It’s people like us who have truly experienced heartbreak and being through hell and back, maybe even more than once. We know what it’s like to love and to lose, and guess what?  We survived. We’re still moving forward and not afraid to keep that hope that one day when God is ready He will bring us the one who is meant to stay by our side. You are stronger. You are better. You are getting closer, so don’t give up. Don’t lose that hope that all of us struggle to keep sometimes. Instead of looking back on your relationships and seeing all the loss that you experienced, look back on your relationships and see all that you have gained. From all the losses you have gained experience and knowledge in what you want in another person. You are able to go out on another first date knowing what you’re looking for, and don’t settle for anything less. “There are too many mediocre things in life and love shouldn’t be one of them.” Read it, reread it, remember it. You are special and you deserve an invigorating, enticing, and riveting love. After everything you’ve been through, why settle now? Why give up when you might be almost there? Why settle for something for the rest of your life and make yourself miss out on the love you longed and hoped for for so long?

Some people may think I’m ridiculous and strange for getting caught up in the beautiful love stories that have been written over the years and never getting tired of reading them or watching them in movies or TV shows, but it gives me hope and makes me happy because I know one day I will have that. That day may not come in the time frame that I want, but it will come and until then, there’s no sense in wasting the time and freedom that I have now worrying about a future that I cannot control. I might be that girl that’s on Pinterest planning her future wedding, watching How I Met Your Mother while obsessing over the relationship between Marshall and Lily, and ultimately that girl who seems to have this crazy idea of a truly great love that people say only exists in movies, but I would rather be completely absurd and passionate than to give up on one of life’s greatest concepts. And so, I refuse to settle simply because I feel lonely or bored as some tend to do, and I refuse to accept anything less than that constant butterflies and happy feeling. It may not come easy and it might take a lot of struggling and energy and perseverance, but I will not let myself stray from what I truly want, and I will have faith in God and His plans for my life. I haven’t come this far to back down now, because love isn’t something that just happens in movies, and one day I’ll prove that and look back on everything that happened and thank God for every struggle that lead me to where I am. I hope you will too.

50 Things I Learned As a College Freshman

Recently I read a blog from one of my sorority sisters titled “72 Things I Learned From Living In My Sorority House”, and if you are a sorority girl like myself, I highly suggest you read it! Although there are many different sororities, I’m sure there are numerous things we all have in common when put into a house together to survive.

Anyways, after reading her blog, it got me thinking about the many things I’ve learned during my first year as a college freshman. And so, much like the title of this blog most likely clued you in on, I made a list! Some of you may be able to relate as fellow students, but if you’re not yet in college and reading this, then I strongly suggest that you take some of these into consideration as there are many myths and rumors that float around about college life. However, whether you’re in high school or college or not in school at all, the following list can probably still supply a good laugh or just past time as you’re probably procrastinating doing something as you read this.

50 Things I Learned As a College Freshman

  1. Move-in day is about as hectic as it sounds (especially with two sets of parents in a tiny room trying to “make it feel home-y”)
  2. Asking people “What is your major?” becomes a habit and you find yourself asking it in awkward silences without forethought
  3. “Tired” no longer is considered a feeling but more of a personality trait
  4. Food can and does make just about any situation better
  5. There is no self-control when it comes to Netflix; you will binge watch and it’s better if you just accept it now (I suggest How I Met Your Mother and Gossip Girl)
  6. Community bathrooms aren’t as bad as they sound
  7. Beer pong is considered a sport in college – respect the pong
  8. Rooming with a friend from high school doesn’t always end in disaster; they might just become your best friend
  9. Always have at least one person in every class that you can text for notes or help
  10. Be wise when skipping classes and don’t skip the same class more than once during a week (trust me, you’ll be lost and confused like a lost puppy when you get back)
  11. If you’re not a morning person, that won’t change in college, so don’t schedule 8ams
  12. Coffee, like Netflix, will be your best friend
  13. Walking to class isn’t “working out”; go to the gym
  14. After you see what they feed you in the dining halls, you’ll understand why you have to go to the gym
  15. It’s okay to eat by yourself in the dining halls; just scroll through your phone or read a book if you’re truly insecure
  16. Sometimes you will be forced to eat by yourself in the dining hall (so don’t just ignore #15 like oh that won’t happen to me; it will happen to you)
  17. You’ll praise whoever created ratemyprofessor.com and courseoff.com
  18. It’s possible to have a social life and get good grades, but you will sacrifice sleep on a regular basis
  19. Naps are more popular in college than they were in kindergarten
  20. Set 3 alarms because you’ll train yourself to turn them off in your sleep and then get mad at yourself later
  21. “I’m going to the gym tomorrow” means nothing
  22. Wherever there’s free food, college students flock
  23. Make downtown a reward and not a habit
  24. Choose your friends wisely (this is easier said than done, but you’ll thank me later)
  25. Greek life is fantastic, but don’t forget to join other clubs, organizations, and do volunteer work
  26. Buy a desk calendar or a planner as being forgetful in college is just not an option with the amount of things that have to be done
  27. If you thought finals were difficult in high school, good luck in college
  28. If you’re a girl, you’ll probably cry at the sight of how small your closet in the dorm actually is
  29. Your laundry will consist of t shirts and running shorts so stock up while you can
  30. If you’re going to UGA, LIVE IN THE LOW RISES (Hill, Boggs, Church, Mell); the rooms are bigger, you get your own sink, and you’ll appreciate the quietness when you’re trying to do homework and study
  31. Sometimes you and your roommate will need time apart; he/she doesn’t hate you (well he/she might), they just need some time alone
  32. Waffle House is good at both 10am and 10pm
  33. BUDDY SYSTEM
  34. Don’t be afraid to be that freshman carrying a map on the first day  (I missed the bus and went to the wrong building – you’ll want the map)
  35. You’ll surprise yourself of how much you miss home
  36. Speaking of home, don’t forget to stay in touch with your parents; you leaving is a big adjustment for them too
  37. If they offer to come up to visit, say yes even if it’s just for the free food (can you tell college students love free food?)
  38. If you’re a girl, “I’m going to dress cute for class tomorrow” becomes irrelevant the next morning at 8am, so shorts and t-shirt it is
  39. Don’t stereotype people; you’ll realize how annoying it is when you’re the one getting stereotyped
  40. Freshman year isn’t about hooking up with the most people, so don’t be that guy/girl
  41. You will most likely have at least 1 story that will be so strange even you can’t comprehend it months later (for example, my roommate and I let a drunk guy sleep on our futon because his roommate had a girl over, and he wound up getting up at 5am, peeing in our room all over our carpet and ottoman, denying the fact that it happened, then buying us a new carpet and ottoman)
  42. If you’re a guy, stay away from crazy girls (they’re out and on the prowl)
  43. Freshman 15 is a real thing – GO TO THE GYM
  44. You’ll spend more time studying for a class than you actually spend in class
  45. “I’m going to study” means “I’m going to search every social network twice, do my laundry, run a mile, eat some food (okay a lot of food), all with my book open in front of me”
  46. Your eating habits will become like that of your 8 year old self (macaroni and cheese, gummies, chips, milk, etc.)
  47. Only take as much cash downtown as you’re willing to spend
  48. Don’t do homework in your bed; it’s a trap
  49. Take note of your professors’ office hours; not only will it help you better your grades, but you’ll need those student-teacher relationships when it comes time to get professor recommendations
  50. You only get one chance at your first year of college, so get out there, make memories, and have a kick-ass year